On December 23rd, Virginia (Virgie), my hairdresser of 30 years, died. Any tribute from me, would not do her justice. She was a remarkable woman. Though we were not close friends outside the beauty parlor, on many levels, we knew each other well. I will miss her smile, her hugs and her kindness. It has been an honor to know her.
GOODBYE VIRGIE
You liked precision
If there is choice in dying
You rejected the hazy living of prolonged illness
Maintaining neither life nor death
You stayed long enough though
For preparation - yours and ours
But we are not yet ready
To accept the shading of your essence
Grief is our resistance
To the biggest change of life
You are deeply grieved
Your eulogy was about your goodness
It was long
Because it was about loving
Now as you travel that road
Destined for us all
Life goes on
Or is it death that grows into itself?
Life and death simultaneously fused
Beautiful.
ReplyDeleteI am so deeply sorry for your loss, Myrna.
ReplyDeleteA very beautiful tribute.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful tribute. We walked the path of grief when my oldest daughter lost the love of her life last September. We have chosen to live his mantra. "life life forward."
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful tribute - to a beautiful life. Loving and goodness are wonderful inspirational ways to define ourselves. A route taken by too few.
ReplyDeleteShe will be missed. And is still loved.
A long eulogy about love is a great thing to point out about a someone who is now gone. It is great to be remember for good things and wonderful things. May she rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteThis is a wonderful tribute and well written.
ReplyDeleteOh, Myrna, you let us know her a little.......she sounds so warm and lovely. We are never ready to let our people go........you will miss her. Through your poem many more people now meet her and appreciate her goodness.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your loss, Myrna. It's interesting how people we would not think to call good friends outside a particular setting nevertheless can have a deep importance in our lives and, in that way, most certainly are great and spiritually close friends. I'm glad you had such a one in Virgie. And I think the last line in your tribute is a very keen observation that is probably brimming with truth.
ReplyDeleteA beautiful tribute. I'm so sorry for the loss you feel. 30 years is a long time.longer than some friendships and marriages.
ReplyDeleteA beautiful, thoughtful goodbye. That kind of questioning and wondering leads eventually to acceptance. May your grief be eased through being expressed and shared here.
ReplyDeletedoes death grow into itself... oh that's quite a question!So sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteSuch a profound question - and a wonderful tribute to your friend
ReplyDeleteA beautiful tribute for Virgie.So sad to lose such a lovely person. You will miss her.
ReplyDeleteYour hairdresser of 30 years! That's a long relationship, and sounds like it was beautiful one. Your tribute is both moving and well penned. So sorry for your loss, Myrna. May Virgie rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteThat fact that the theme of her eulogy was love and it was was a long one says a lot about who she was as a person. It sounds like she was very loved and will be very missed. I am so sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteA beautiful tribute Myrna - your friend truly loved. So sorry for your loss.
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